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Dancing to a Different Rhythm #curemonica

monica2Monica is a fun-loving, driven young lady, she graduated as a Political Science major at UCLA and then challenged herself to complete her MBA – which she did in just one year at SJSU. At 26 Monica was thrown a curve ball, she was diagnosed with Severe Aplastic Anemia, a disease of the bone marrow where the bone marrow stops making enough red blood cells, white blood cells and platelets for the body. Severe Aplastic Anemia is such a rare condition that the therapies for treatment are also few and far between. It’s a disease that affects only 5 in 1 million.

To date Monica has been undergoing immunosuppressive therapy. This therapy kills off all her white cells, to give the other cells a chance to grow. As a result her condition makes her at risk for life threatening infections or bleeding. There are two types of these therapies and Monica has yet to successfully react positively to either. Since being diagnosed, Monica has not been able to lead a normal life. The more she exerts herself the more cells are used up, reducing her overall cell count making her more prone to infections and diseases. As a result she stays isolated, keeps to a strict diet and juggles her 17-odd medications a day. Her only chance for a cure is a Bone Marrow Transplant.

Monica is my younger cousin and I’ve watched her grow up and blossom into a beautiful young lady. She always has a zest for life, from a young age she took a liking to dance and gymnastics. We soon became her audience as she rhythmically entertained us. Her perspective on life is always positive, refreshing and well beyond her years.

If you asked her friends and family, they would say that Monica is the type of person who everyone wishes they had as a best friend, sister, daughter, girlfriend or acquaintance. She has a heart of gold and a shining star who’s always there for her loved ones. As soon as she heard about her rare condition, the first thing she did was reach out to the ones closest to her and asked them to live their life to the fullest. To not focus on the daily duties, but focus on the bigger picture in life – because even at her age – she wished she had lived a little more. She also thanked anyone who had donated blood in the past, as the transfusions she’s been getting almost weekly are getting her through these tough times.

We have not found a match in her immediate or extended family, our only option is to get an unrelated donor. Today if you are a White Caucasian your chances of finding a donor are 1 in 8. For Monica, being South Asian, her chances are 1 in 22,000. This is simply because there aren’t enough South Asians registered to be Bone Marrow donors. There’s also not enough information on registering and the donation process, so often people are left confused and fearful of being added to the registry. What is not well known is that registering takes 10 minutes and requires swabbing the inside of your cheek – no blood test is required. Also in 75% of cases donating Bone Marrow is a procedure that is similar to donating blood and invasive surgery may not be required.

Today we’re dancing a different rhythm as she fights to gain back her normal life. My goal is simple, to find a Bone Marrow Donor for my cousin so she can continue her zest for life and dance to her hearts content.

To help Monica attend the Bone Marrow Drive, get swabbed, enjoy happy hour drink prices and complimentary appetizers at Van Diemens Bar.

Cure for Monica

Cure Monica Happy Hour & Drive

Date: August 25th
Time: 1-4pm
Address: Van Diemens bar, 383 3rd Ave, New York (between 27th and 28th Streets)

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4 comments on “Dancing to a Different Rhythm #curemonica

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    April 6, 2017

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  2. Travis Julius
    August 17, 2013

    I don’t know what Monica’s blood levels are at now and I certainly hope she finds all the help she needs. Aplastic Anemia is a scary thing. I know, my wife was diagnosed with it in 2009. I want you to know however that their is hope. My wife and I found a doctor that took a different approach to AA. He put her on his special formula of minerals and vitamins, I was skeptical at first too, but we had nothing to lose. Her platelets were in the 50s and dropping when we started the formula. Just as he predicted, in four months, the plummeting counts stopped and started coming up. They have been on a slow but steady rise since, her last blood test showed her platelets at 93!. I would be more than happy to share all the info I have if you want. My e-mail is
    God bless,
    Travis Julius.

    • rhafesjeeadmin
      August 17, 2013

      Thanks Travis, I’m passing on your details to my uncle. All this type of information is so valuable to our family so thank you.

      I hope your wife and family are doing well. You’re in our prayers.
      Rumana (Monica’s cousin)

  3. Madhu Hafesjee
    August 8, 2013

    Monica is just as gorgeous as her looks . She deserves every chance to live life to the fullest .So come forward get swabbed and give her that chance.

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